AITAH for reporting my stepdaughter, stepdad, before telling my husband?
On a burner because my husband knows my original.
I am 45 f. I have a 24 year old stepdaughter. Let’s call her Mel. Mel, mother married Jason 40, 4 years ago.
He seemed like a decent guy, besides the fact he seemed to ignore Mel. She did mention that he seemed to be annoyed when she visited her mother.
So anyway, I did notice a slight change in his behavior in the beginning of last year towards Mel. In my job, I am trained to read body language and her read that she was uncomfortable and his was over confident which made me take note. What made me suspicious at another family event where he was trying to keep eye contact with her and she was avoiding looking at him.
I confront Mel afterwards and she denied it. But she kept looking away which was a sign she was hiding something but I decided not to push it.
What really got me to push was when Mel got a bf. Mel rang me up crying because Jason went crazy and said she had to brake up with him. He said he wasn’t good enough for her and that she can do better. Mel mother agreed with him. I picked her up and I told her she 24, old enough to date and not answerable to him and I admitted what I’ve been noticing. She confessed that he’s being harassing her for the past year. Sending her sexual content of himself and demanding she give him something back and then he threatened hers and her mother’s safety if she said anything. I took her straight to the police to report him. She had a full on brake down while talking to the police and showing them the proof. I was told he was arrested at work. They also found things on his device of Mel that were obviously taken without her permission.
I am so angry with myself for not pushing sooner. My husband flipped when he found out. My husband is very protective with Mel and so I do understand his anger. When he found out, I suspected, he got angry and asked why didn’t I say anything. I said I couldn’t without proof. He said it’s not good enough and that I failed Mel and him as well. We argued and it’s been a week of barely speaking. AITAH?
