AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of a comment he made about my body?
I (25F) recently broke up with my boyfriend (27M) of about 5 months, and some mutual friends think I overreacted, so now I’m second guessing myself.
For context: I’m 5’3” and around 160 pounds. I love food. I love cooking, trying new restaurants, baking, all of it. I’m not ashamed of that. I’m healthy, active enough, and generally comfortable in my body. I’ve never pretended to be super skinny or a gym rat, and this is how I looked when we met.
At the beginning of the relationship, he always told me he liked my body and that I was “curvy in a good way.” No red flags there. But over time, little comments started slipping in. Things like “You don’t really need seconds, do you?” or “Wow, you really love food,” said with a laugh. I brushed it off at first because I didn’t want to seem overly sensitive.
The breaking point happened last week. We were out to dinner, and I ordered a burger and fries. He looked at my plate and said, “Not gonna lie, if you keep eating like that, you’re gonna get bigger than you already are.” He followed it up with, “I’m just being honest because I care.”
I was embarrassed and hurt. I told him that the comment was rude and made me uncomfortable. He immediately got defensive and said I was “too sensitive” and that he was just “looking out for my health.” I pointed out that he’s not my doctor, I didn’t ask for his input, and my body isn’t a project for him to manage.
The conversation went nowhere. He doubled down and said he just doesn’t want a girlfriend who “lets herself go.” That really stuck with me. I realized that even if he apologized later, this mindset wasn’t going to magically disappear.
The next day, I broke up with him. I told him I don’t want to be with someone who makes me feel self conscious for enjoying food or existing in my body. He accused me of throwing away a good relationship over “one comment.”
Now a couple of friends are saying that five months isn’t that long and that I should’ve just talked it out instead of ending things. But to me, this felt like a glimpse into a future of constant comments and insecurity.
So… AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend over a comment about my body?
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