AITAH
So when my kids were growing up,
I put alot of my own needs on hold and I made sure the kids always had great birthdays and holidays, I also made sure they visited their grandparents often to maintain that relationship.
They are now adults with their own households and kids. My second husband (not their bio dad or grand dad) and I have been married a few years and we are retired and on a fixed income.
My daughter has had 7 children…it’s alot of birthdays…my sons side has about the same, even more birthdays.
We are getting older and we like to save our money and travel alot and like to do things for ourselves…im doing things i never had the chance to do when I was raising kids and we seldom see the grands although we try to make a visit or two when we are in town
Edit- i guess I should.have added that alot of the traveling is to see the kids in the states they live in. We live in one state, my parents, my step daughters family and my husband’s family live in the same state, and my sons family Iive in an entirely different state altogether. We are the ones that travel to see everyone and of course pay the expenses for those trips..Plus we save for an annual cruise.
Trying to provide gifts for birthdays and holidays fr afar is becoming a financial burden (usually Amazon delivery) and we would like to focus more on our own interests and spend less on the kids.
Sidenote- i have never received a birthday gift from my adult kids nor do I get calls from anyone on my birthday. Also the grands have multiple grandparents beside myself and always get more than they need on these occasions
Aitah for wanting to put our modest income towards our travels and our own interests in our aging years while we still can and not toward a bunch of toys nobody really needs?
I’m thinking I want to just send birthday cards from now on to acknowledge and tell them we love them and hope they have a good birthday or holiday or whatever. Thoughts?
Thank you
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