AITA for refusing to associate with my dad’s new baby? The mother is my brother’s ex.
For some context, my oldest brother met his girlfriend in high school when they were 14. She had family issues so basically moved in with us and lived with us for 8 years. We were extremely close, sisters/bestfriends. She was close with my mother who called her daughter and it was all great. Sadly she cheated on my brother multiple times during this relationship, including his bestfriends and my partner at the time…
We don’t have contact with my dad, he is an abusive father/partner and has commited crimes. We avoid him. Since me and my 3 other siblings he has further had 3 more children who he has also abused their mothers. (He has no rights to any of his children because of his actions)
(my brother’s girlfriend who we will call Sally for this)
Fast forward, my brother wants to leave Sally, he tells my mother, she gives helpful advice, Sally reads messages and tell the brother to basically choose between them, brother stopped speaking to us.
Sally then begins to try and mend the relationship between my father and my oldest brother when they left my mams home. (Brother didn’t want to)
She persuaded him eventually and they all then had a relationship with eachother which included none of us (my mum, me and other siblings) we started seeing pics of them and just let them crack on with it, not our circus, not our monkeys.
Then I see Sally’s username has changed to one my dad also uses…
Then I get the text from my older brother that I have a new step mam.
I expected a joke to go with this. No.
He had split with Sally and now was in a relationship with mine and my brother’s dad.
My brother and Sally has split up and now my dad and Sally were living together in my brother’s home while my brother moved out, leaving them to it.
Called the girl my sister since I was 10 years old, we have been drunk together, sang together, had sleep overs together and then BANG step mam Sally.
WHO IS PREGNANT WITH MY 7TH SIBLING
*I see none of my dad’s other children because of other issues*
The whole family was ripped apart, my mother who seen her as a daughter felt ill. Me who seen her as a sister was betrayed, the younger siblings confused. All too much at once.
She posted the birth today as I am writing this.
Its a boy (I am 22F)
But its named after me. The daughter he abused and the bestfriend she betrayed.
For example, if my name is:
Alexis Danielle Jefferson
His name is: Andrew Daniel Jefferson
I dont see my dad and have never wanted to be around him or his new children, she knows my name and didnt stop this horrible implication
I sent my dad a message saying I wont be around this baby or him and I think he is sick for even considering putting the family through this, AITA? I understand its not the baby’s fault but this is just too much for us as a family to take on and as much as I dont want to cut off a sibling, this is just very Jeremy Kyle.
Tia!
