AITAH for losing it with my dad for complaining about the things my brother and I get from mom and our maternal family that his kids and stepkids don’t get?
My parents divorced when my brother (16M) and I (17M) were babies. They share custody of us and now that I’m 17 I have more leeway to not do 50-50 anymore and I spend most of my time with mom. But there are still times I need to go to see dad and I have a certain number of hours a month I need to spend at his house. I chose mom because my dad has issues with the fact my brother and I have better lives than our step and half siblings.
Dad got remarried when I was 4 and he became a stepdad to two kids. One was 9 and the other 2 at the time. He had more bio kids with his wife and they always tried to make everything totally equal at their house. It was kinda weird because there were different parents and families involved. My stepsiblings have different dads and had different family setups with their dads families. Me and my brother have our mom and maternal family. So it was never going to be 100% equal. Me and my brother got to do activities (hockey) that my dad and the other parents could never afford for the other kids. At mom’s house we have our own room. We have experiences that dad can’t afford. And we always hear about it at dad’s house.
He complains every Christmas we see him on the 26th instead of the 25th (we alternate the days each year). He complains on our birthdays too. Every summer it comes up because of vacations too. But he always asks. It’s not that we offer that info and for the last two years I have refused to tell him info about that kind of stuff but he won’t shut up about it. He’s asked us why we don’t share more of what we get with our step and half siblings or why we never expect our family to send stuff for them. He told me before that mom shouldn’t be so okay with us having way more than the others.
We are resented by our step and half siblings. The oldest doesn’t talk to any of us anymore. But the younger kids are always complaining about us playing hockey or going on vacation or getting gifts. My dad’s wife even spies on my family members socials and they’re always looking through gifts and stuff we get or places we go as a family.
Yesterday me and my brother were at dad’s and he really started to annoy me. He mentioned that he asked mom to give him $500 for him to buy gifts for all us kids or he asked her to let him and his wife claim some of what she got me and my brother and he told us she was supposed to make sure all the kids in the family have stuff of equal-ish value. I lost it. I told him to go fuck right off because me and my brother are mom’s family, not any step or half siblings we have. I told him he needed to leave my mother the fuck alone because she doesn’t owe them any fucking thing and I said he was a shit dad to always try and make us feel bad for what we have.
I ended up going home because the fight between me and dad got so bad but dad made my brother stay the night.
AITAH?
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