MIL nightmare.
Guys I need some help/advice. My MIL is driving me crazy. I would like to hear other people’s perspectives.
Me and my husband have been together for almost 10 years. Our entire relationship, I have had a gut feeling about my MIL not liking me. She has never said anything or done anything mean to me directly but often makes sly comments when it’s mainly just me and her.
A few examples.
Every day For the first two years of our relationship, she couldn’t remember my name and kept calling me my husband’s ex’s name. (Sometimes even infront of my partner)
She straight up asked me “do you think you would have done so well in your life if you hadn’t met my son?”
On our days off, when we are having family time she will call him and ask him to drive over to hers for very silly things. (Again, maybe I’m crazy but it happens so often it almost feels like she’s doing it on purpose)
She often makes comments on the amount of food I eat or the food choices I make. Before anyone says, maybe she wants me to be healthy. I tend to only eat once or twice a day so my meals are slightly bigger. I am a size 8.
She loves to guilt trip him into inviting her on our holidays.
Anyway, the list could go on forever. These are just a few examples on top of my head that have hurt me the most. We constantly have to change our plans to suit her or help her with little everyday things that all adults have to do.
The other week, I exploded. We meant to go out for early Christmas dinner with the whole family. We arranged a place and time in advance. Few days before she calls my husband asking him if we can go to pick her up. (This would add 50+ minutes to our trip) without me knowing, my husband said yes. Comes the day before the dinner and my husband has finally informed me about this. I said to him it wouldn’t be a good idea since we also have to go visit our best friends and hand them and their children presents from us. We are unable to see them before Christmas as we are travelling away. Anyway, this would then mean that we would have to leave our dogs home alone for 6+ hrs. My husband snaps back at me saying she’s only trying to help us save petrol since she has an electric car.
Am I crazy? I honestly don’t know how to get her to butt out of our lives a little. I would never want them to cut contact. I just want my husband to see what I’m seeing and stand up for me. Unless there’s nothing to see and I’m crazy 🥹
