AITA because I called my husband out for repeatedly crossing boundaries we agreed upon?
Background: My husband is an advid gamer and so am I. He is huge into WOW and has three dedicated nights a week to raid. Mind you this is carved out, uninterrupted time (4+ hours each of those nights). We agreed upon this while we were dating, and I have honored that agree ment even now, five years into marriage with a two year old and a baby on the way.
The issue arises that after having our first child, I pretty much gave up gaming all together to balance work and parenting while still honoring his 3 night a week agreement, except now it’s those three nights, plus anytime new content releases, or another game comes out that he wants to play that’s not WoW or his friends ask him to get on etc which is nearly every day lately. We literally plan everything around those three nights a week, to include family time and he has quite often lately taken over family time to squeeze in more gaming, not to mention I pretty much never get any gaming time myself because I don’t won’t our two year old to feel left out with both of her parents gaming for hours at a time. When he finally does decide to participate in family time he pouts when we don’t immediately shower him with an affection or seem “grateful”.
He also complains and pouts the entire time anytime I suggest we leave the house to get our two year old daughter some interaction with other kids (she does not go to daycare). Or he will start an argument so he can say he is going to stay home since he is “upset” or back out of the outing all together. Then I, not wanting to disappoint our daughter who has been looking forward to an outing have to take her alone while he stays home and games (I am six months pregnant btw). Then he acts hurt when I don’t want to kiss, hug on him or offer him sex. When I explain to him that I have been feeling like we are second choice then he just denies that he games that much and throws the fact that he cooked, cleaned or did dishes in my face as a see I am a good husband trump card. I realize that he has needs and that he needs to unwind but it seems as if he prioritizes he needs and wants above everyone else in the household and then accuses me of basically calling him a bad husband and mopes around, or retreats to his game room every time I bring it up. AITA?
Facebook
X.com
LinkedIn
Instagram
Pinterest
More
