I (31F) just had our first baby with my husband (34M). Our son is 3 months old. Up until now, my husband has been home with us because he works hybrid, but this week he had to go into the office. His coworkers are spread across the country, and every few months when everyone is in town, they do a group dinner.
Yesterday was one of those dinners. He told me he’d be in the office from 11–4 and then the dinner would be from 5–8. This was one of the first days that the baby and I were home alone all day.
He ended up not getting home until 11pm. He didn’t text to check in on me or the baby the entire day except for one message around noon saying his dad had called him and told him to let him know if I needed anything. A few hours later, his stepmom reached out to me to see if I was doing okay — but my husband himself never checked in or told me the dinner would run late.
By the time he got home, I was exhausted and honestly hurt that he didn’t think to check on us at all, especially on a long and stressful day for me… yet his parents did. When I told him this, he couldn’t believe I was upset and said he didn’t understand why it would bother me.
We’ve been together for 10 years, and I’ll be honest — I’ve often felt like he doesn’t really care about me unless I explicitly tell him what to do or say (yes, I know… that’s on me for letting it go on this long). But now with a newborn, it feels even heavier.
So… AITA for being upset that he didn’t check on us or communicate that he’d be out way later than planned?
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