“AITA for refusing to lend my designer purse to my sister-in-law for her wedding?”
I (24F) have a Chanel purse that was a gift from my parents when I graduated college. It’s by far the most expensive thing I own.
My brother recently got married, and his new wife Amy asked if she could borrow my Chanel purse for their wedding day photos and reception. Amy doesn’t own any designer bags and really wanted one to complete her wedding look.
I politely declined to lend her my purse. That purse is extremely valuable to me, and the thought of something happening to it makes me anxious. Amy called me selfish and materialistic for not lending it to her for the wedding. She said I was more concerned about a status symbol than helping family.
My parents and brother also got upset with me, saying I should be willing to share my things with family. But I don’t think I should have to hand over my most prized possession just because it’s for a wedding. Now the whole family is angry with me.
Just to clarify, it’s not about being unwilling to help but more about protecting a sentimental and valuable gift. I offered other bags of mine she could borrow. Just not this one due to its sentimental value.
AITA for not lending my sister-in-law my expensive designer purse for her wedding? She’s acting like I ruined her big day over this, but I think it was an unreasonable request.
OP added this in the comments:
Just to clarify, it’s not about being unwilling to help but more about protecting a sentimental and valuable gift. I offered other bags of mine she could borrow. Just not this one due to its sentimental value.
In OP’s words, this is why she might be the AH:
I politely declined to lend my Chanel purse to my sister-in-law for her wedding. \_(ツ)_/¯ (shrug emoji added by us).
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
antiquead7 writes:
NTA, I find it funny that she called you materialistic for not lending her the purse. Yet she needed the purse to complete her outfit. And the only reason she wanted your purse was because it was expensive and designer. So in other words, she’s mad that you wouldn’t let her be materialistic with your items.
No family does not always lend everything. Walking to the house next week and borrow the TV, borrow their car for a week. She wanted the purse because it was the nicest thing. She knew that was close to her and she was going to assume that just because their family you would say yes.
It’s your stuff you choose who you lended to or not wanted to. And everyone is wrong. And if your parents are so upset, tell them to buy her one.
WhoIsYerWan
Who holds a purse in wedding photos? Tell her to find you one picture of a bride with a purse as part of her look. This is weird. She would “misplace it” and refuse to replace it. Naw. NTA. And hide that purse.
NovaScrawlers
Honestly? Everyone in this story sounds materialistic to me.
This is a purse. It’s literally just a purse. It’s not an heirloom. It’s not like this is a purse that someone’s great grandma had with them on the Titanic when they survived the shipwreck.
Substantial_Idea_989
This is a power play, make no mistake. Straighten your crown queen. It’s your precious possession and she is simply not entitled to it.
74Magick
Is she aware that Chanel has stores all over the world and they EVEN sell online? If she needs a designer bag she can order one and have them overnight it. NTA
