AITA?
I’m gay. My family has always been super supportive, they’ve advocated for me to other family members, in our community etc.
I have always considered myself blessed to have a family like them. Well my partner and I have decided to get married, while we still can. Everything has been amazing, my family still supportive and allowing us to host it at my grandparents backyard which I consider my childhood home. Approximately 2 weeks ago my grandmother comes to me privately and was like I don’t want “A” to take your last name. I was taken aback and brushed it off as to her being annoying for lack of a better word, considering she’s always been supportive but there have been bumps in this relationship and I was trying to believe that was her reasoning and then tonight my mom starts sending me blended last names that incorporate both mine and my partners. So I finally ask what the problem is and my mom tells me my grandfather doesn’t agree with giving anything not his blood the family name. So I get upset considering I carry the family name because my own father wasn’t in the picture but I’m also upset because I have medical issues with my reproductive system that makes me infertile, so I’m upset that if my partner were to carry a child for us it would never be considered family or able to carry on the family name that I was once so proud to carry. Anyway, I got an attitude with my mother and told her that no matter what way she looks at it she nor anyone else in my family will ever understand how this news makes me feel and I would appreciate them not brushing it off or telling me that it’s not that serious and I shouldn’t feel this way.
