So, since I had my baby Sept of 2024…
I didn’t fully decide I wanted to go back to my 9-5 until Feb 2025. I decided I wanted to do my own thing and become 100% commission (I am in the mortgage/sales space).
I have already surpassed what my original base salary was to date. Which is honestly quite a milestone for people in my field. And especially with a baby attached to my hip.
My husband… has had the same job for the last 10 years. There’s no real room for growth in his position either. He will occasionally get a raise but that’s it. He’s capping out a little under $100K this year. I expect to reach $200k by end of next year.
Now, he did hold us afloat for maybe 3-4 months while I was gaining some traction in my business. He has not at all in the slightest hold me to it, but I obviously want to contribute my part.
But then there’s that “my part”… I’m working full time, WHILE raising our child. I put $1,200 monthly to our join account and pay for all the groceries, health insurance for all of us, necessities, fun stuff, etc.
This is not a level playing field, I know that it isn’t.
I don’t even know what kind of advice I’m looking for here.
I do love him, and the life we’re building… but he’s quite selfish I feel in some ways.
I feel like we’ve gotten to comfortable with each other. I’m trying to reach for the stars, and he’s not, which holds me back a bit… does that make sense?
