AITA for spending my fiancé’s money and leaving him with almost nothing in his account?
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My fiancé (23M) and I (22F) live together. We recently got into an argument about money, and I’m genuinely wondering if I’m in the wrong.
For context, last year he wasn’t able to celebrate my birthday with me. This year we live together, so we planned to celebrate. Since he gets paid weekly and he makes damn good money and I’m a full-time college student who stays home, we celebrated the weekend before my actual birthday when he got paid.
That weekend, he spent about $528 on eating out and shopping. I know that’s a lot of money, and I appreciate it, but it wasn’t exclusively for me—he also bought things for himself. I’m also the only driver in the relationship. He doesn’t have his license, so I handle all transportation. My car is very old, gas is expensive, and that factors into our spending as well.
This morning, he asked how much money was left in his bank account. He forgot his PIN, so we use my card to access it. I told him he had $8.88 left. He got extremely upset and accused me of spending all his money.
However, we also went grocery shopping, which came out of that account. Yesterday was my actual birthday, and I received birthday money from relatives. I used some of that money to buy his Christmas presents and one book I’ve personally wanted for a long time.
He called me selfish because I got myself two energy drinks and him only one and said that four days ago he had about $70 left, but now the account is nearly empty. I felt guilty, so I transferred the remaining birthday money I had into his account so he wouldn’t have nothing.
I’m now considering returning my book and even the backing for a blanket I’m making just so I can give him more money, but I feel hurt and confused.
So, AITA?
I feel like my wording was not well. I got birthday money from family that’s how I bought his gifts. He wanted to take me out when I would’ve loved to stay home and crochet. I can’t get a job because every time I do I get fired because I have to take him to work and pick him up. And take him everywhere else because he doesn’t want to get his license. I always make sure we have cash stashed for emergencies the $8 is what is in MY bank account since we use mine because he refuses to go and change him pin. Plus I start a new job in January so I hope I can keep this one because this is what I was going to college for. Also I pay 70% of the rent from money I have saved that he doesn’t know about because he will ask for it
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