Am I the A**hole for not letting my boyfriend (40yr) use my credit card, ie hand it over to him to use.
We have been together for 2.5 years. We do not live together or share any financial costs. (He prefers to live alone and will never move in with anyone, which i respect). He doesnt want to get a credit card because he wants to keep his expensese low, but now wants to buy music festival tickets and they dont accept debit cards (I also cant be with him to make the transaction because ticket sales go live at a time when I have an important meeting at work). He wont tell me how much money he has in the bank and says that is irrelevant. He compares me lending him my credit card to lending me a drill. I have suggest he get a “free” crredit card but says its just takes more time and effort when it would just be easier to give him mine.
I (f54) am a single professional who lives alone. I’m on a friendly nod and wave basis with most of my neighbors. I’m not super well endowed and not horrible to look at but I’m no young hottie. I’m quiet and keep to myself. I bother no one. There’s an older couple who lives across from me. I’ve talked to them a handful of times. I maintain my own yard, etc etc etc….I’m outside about every weekend keeping up on things, washing my car, etc.
About a month ago or so, the wife came over to me while I was outside and told me that I make her husband uncomfortable when I’m outside without a bra and asked me if I would please wear a bra when I’m outside. I told her no… that I have to dress professionally all week and at home I am going to be comfortable…and that I don’t think it’s her husband that’s uncomfortable with it. She told me I’m committing a crime and she will turn me in. I told her to show me the statute that says I have to wear a bra anywhere, let alone in my own yard. Obviously that’s not a thing. Now almost every time I am outside she comes out, stands there with her arms crossed and gives me the evil eye, so I wave and smile and go on about my business. I know it burns her a$$ and I may be the AH because I get a little chuckle out of that.
