I’m a mom of two boys (7 and 10). My boyfriend and I live together, and he doesn’t have a license, so I drive him to his coworker’s house every morning at 6:30 so they can take him to work. They usually work 45 minutes to an hour away. At the end of the day, they drop him off somewhere in town, and I pick him up.
Sometimes his pickup time overlaps with when my kids get off the bus. When that happens, he says they’ll “be fine” waiting until we get back. I told him so would he—he was being dropped at a fast-food place where he could go inside and wait. My kids wouldn’t know I wasn’t home, it was 25 degrees outside, and they’d be confused and upset. I told him I’d pick him up right after I got the kids. He got mad.
AITA for putting my kids first?
Editing for more context. We’ve been together for 3 years. He lost his license before we got together due to a DUI. He’s just never paid the fees to get it back. He blames me because “he takes care of us and pays the rent and took us on vacation, bought stuff for us ect when he shouldn’t have.” I only work part time so that I’m able to get the kids on and off the bus.
He works full time. So he feels like he’s entitled to have me as a taxi at his whim because he puts a roof over our head and pays the bills. Not to mention the fact that he also doesn’t contribute to ANY housework because he works more and harder than me. I can’t afford to leave. I have nowhere to go. I knew the answer to this question, I honestly just needed a push and validation to my feelings. He’s a narcissist. He’s got me so brainwashed that I doubt my own thoughts and reality constantly. He manipulates and controls me.
He’s secluded me and has turned my own family against me to the point that they no longer talk to me. I’m miserable and scared. There’s way more to the story that would take me hours to type. This post has made me realize what an idiot I’ve been. Come tax time, I’m taking my boys and running. I’m done being his fucking mom. I knew the answer, I was honestly just looking for validation and support because he makes me feel like I’m the crazy one.
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