Throwaway account as people involved are likely on reddit
I (M30) divorced from my ex (F28) – let’s call her Tina – about 5 years ago. We have one son (M7) and share custody 50/50.
She remarried 2 years ago to ‘Kevin’ – At first, I had nothing bad to say about Kevin as he was nice to my son and he seemed to like Kevin as well.
My son spends one week with me and another week with his mom (truly 50/50). This arrangement has worked well for the past 5 years.
However, in the last year, Kevin and Tina seems to have some marital issues where they argue (sometimes in front of my son – I know this as he’s told me). Obviously, I am not there so I am not sure how heated these arguments are.
Last week, after I dropped off my son, I stayed in my car (street-parking, not in their driveway or garage – so I am not trespassing) checking some messages on my phone before driving away (don’t text and drive folks!).
A few minutes went by and Kevin approached my car and rudely asked why I had not left yet – I did not feel I had to explain myself (none of his business) and chose to say nothing to avoid a confrontation in front of the kid – I shrugged my shoulders while he walked away.
I continued to check messages and replied to some of them before driving away. Upon arriving home, I had the police waiting at my door for me. It turns out, Kevin had called the cops (I am not sure under what pretences) and the police wanted to have a word with me about ‘lingering’ outside of their residence for too long.
I asked them how long is ‘too long’ and who gets to define this length – they took my statement, said something about them needing to hear both sides of the story and after a few uncomfortable moments, they left (not before I asked for the report file number and their business card).
I immediately asked Tina what that was about and she avoided the convo all together. Later hinting that maybe I should learn to drop off and drive away and that I am always causing this type of trouble.
I am baffled as there has never been an issue in the several years I have been doing the drop-offs and asked probing questions to know what the issue was. Tina continues to say that if I have an issue with what happened to discuss it with Kevin directly and to leave her out of it completely.
Is it unreasonable to be upset about this uncalled for involvement of law enforcement or AITAH for not following their request to leave immediately after dropping off my son?
