AITA? So my haband and I have been married for almost 10 years.
We have our own house and a child. I work full time and he works part time. Then we have his sister. She is very irresponsible. Can’t hold a jobShe has her own child. We pick her child up at school and some days she will call and say oh I hope you dont mind watching him I wont be home for this long and is still late after that. Well last week she asked us if we could watch her child one day this week because she wanted to go on a trip and she didnt know if she would be back in time for school to let out. I told my husband I didnt want to because she never really parents the child and when her child is suppose to eat at my house he expects take out so he will take three bites of food and ruin the rest of the dish so it cant even be used for leftovers. The child is old enough to know better. So one night when I am sleeping I hear his sister on video chat saying she really needs to go on this trip and she now needs us to take her child two days. My MIL will take them child at night. I do not drive and will need to go to work the next morning. I told him we need to start setting boundaries. That if she does not pick up her child up at 7 pm the night she intended on us watching him we would no longer helping with her child. He said i was being ridiculous. I said no if we dont give her a time and consequences if she doesnt she will show up whenever she wants. That she has shown us time and time again she has no care for anyone other than herself. He said we were not starting unnecessary fights that didnt needed to be fought. I said if she comes home whenever she feels like it. That she only cares about herself. He said to please just drop it. I said if we dont set the boundary now she will continue to walk all over us. I reminded him that the following day he will have to take me to work, the kids to school and then my child and I to two very important doctor’s appointments. That he cannot stay over at my SIL place all night if she chooses to not come home. He said it is his problem because he said he would watch the child. I then told him if this trip was so important to his sister and he was was choosing that trip over all this then he clearly picked her and all this irresponsible stuff she does over his family. He asked me if I was serious and I said yes and that I was going to reschedule both appointments because she will not be home on time and I just dont have it in me to fight with him to get up and then have to call to make sure he is taking the kids to school then calling to make sure he is coming to pick me up for my appointment while I work. He told me I was being ridiculous because I want to reschedule the appointments. I said no you refuse to set boundaries with your sister and it affects our life. So AITA for trying to have my husband and I set boundaries with his irresponsible sister who walks all over people? This trip she is claiming is for a once in a lifetime opportunity that she should not have because she should not be driving.
