AITA?
Me (22f) and my boyfriend (21M) life a few towns apart and see eachother maybe once or twice a week.
My boyfriend has a friend (we’ll call the friend bob for anon purposes) called bob, he lives 3 roads away from him and gets to see him almost everyday (rarely some days he can’t as bob works).
The week before last My boyfriend was going to come to see me, and he said he was leaving at 16:00 to get to mine for 18:00-19:00. As 17:30 came he said “is it okay if I go see bob for an hour before I come over” I wasn’t happy but said okay… fine. (I did express that was upset at this).
Then the next weeks comes and he is due to come see me again, and the same thing happens, he’s about to leave and he says he’s going to see his friend bob. I got more upset this time as I had previously expressed how this made me feel, (pushed aside, just a “I can do it later”, upset that he can see him every day but choose us to do it on the day that he’s meant to be spending time with me), and this time we argued about it, he said he was sorry for making me feel that way and he didn’t mean to.
Now come to this week, he just went to Tesco before he was supposed to be leaving at 17:00, it literally comes to 16:45 and he tells me yet again that he’s gonna go see Bob for an hour, I calmly said to him can you not remember how we spoke about this last week and that it upsets me? He then immediately took it as an argumentative comment, and started going “oh fine. I’ll go cancel on Bob then. 
do everything you want me to”
do everything you want me to”I tried to calmly explain that I didn’t want him to cancel on Bob, I wanted him to understand how it made me feel. He turns around and says that “oh I guess I got you these flowers for nothing then if you’re gonna be moody with me”
Now he’s being moody with me and basically saying I’m the one in the wrong, now I have BPD (borderline personality disorder) so I know sometimes I can be out of proportion with my reactions to things, but I feel that this is perfectly proportional because I had told him how I felt about it previously and he still done it again. And I also feel that he bought the flowers for Me because he knew that I was gonna get upset at him going to see Bob before coming to see me, so he got them as a token to “make up for it”….
Please AITA??
