Am I?
Little back story… divorced after 26 years with 3 kids from ages 24-9.
After the divorce all family (in-laws and my family) stopped talking to me and my children but they never stopped talking to my ex. My kids do not get invited to holidays or family functions from either side. They’re after thoughts. But the families send gifts to my ex to give to the kids for Xmas.
Am I an asshole for wanting to send them back?
My kids are not deprived of anything except family time. Why buy gifts for kids you don’t ever intend to see or love?
Please tell me I’m the asshole because it’s a me thing.
I’m sure it is but my heart hurts for my kids.
My oldest got a text from a family member and she lit me up.. she wants nothing to do with them after this long.
It’s been 4 years since the divorce and 7 since we had an actual holiday with family (Covid started it) She’s hurt deeply she was discarded when we, her parents divorced. It’s like our family divorced us
Would I be the A$$ if I sent them back. They don’t mean anything to my kids. Just random crap they don’t need
Editing to add- i could write a book but im not.. i only asked if me sending back gifts to people my kids do not see makes me an asshole. Im not afraid of the title Ive veen worse.
reason for divorce doesn’t matter.. I’m an adult who made a choice for me and mine. That choice has nothing to do with anyone. why they made the choice to have no contact with us is something they’ll have to work out. I’m not reaching for people who left us standing alone when our world fell apart! My oldest was an adult with her own phone and apartment… did anyone ask if she was ok? Nope.. my youngest just feels everyone just disappeared.
Materialistic bs .. they can keep it.
My kids needed family…Not just their random faceless gifts to make them feel better about abandoning family during a very difficult time.
Thank you all for your opinions.
It’s solidified my thoughts.
They’re children of divorce, they deserve to be loved!
I’ll donate them.. no need to start anything with anyone
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