AITAH for not acting like my mom’s husband is my dad?
My dad died unexpectedly 7 years ago when I was 19, I was already out of the house and in college. Now I’m 26 living with my fiancée in my parents house that was gifted to me by mom and we’re getting married next April. My mom got remarried last year to this dude Shawn and she moved in with him, he has 3 kids under 15 and he was a widower so they’re with them now all the time, there’s nothing wrong with the dude, he treats my mom great, she’s a smart strong woman and she’d call anyone’s bullshit out and she loves him which good for them.
Now being a dad is a really big part of his personality and he has only girls and he wants to have a son, they’ve decided that they’re both too old to have a new baby now so he wants me to act like his son, like he actually wants me calling him dad and pops and stuff, I’ve politely said no and that my late dad will forever be my only dad and that I don’t need anyone else. He keeps insisting on it and mom says to just pretend he’s my dad and to call him that and that I don’t have to mean it, I don’t want to because he’s just mom’s husband.
It all blew over back in Christmas because I went on a two week holiday vacation with my fiancée’s family, her dad paid for everyone including me and he even refused to let me pay my way, he told me to shut up and come celebrate. My mom’s husband Shawn was pissed because I was “disrespecting” my family by missing out on both holidays and celebrating them both with others, I told him my fiancée’s family is also my family so I was celebrating with family and my mom who’s my actual family had no problem with me going away so I didn’t see the issue, he lost it and called me ungrateful and disrespectful, he says that I should be grateful someone is offering to be my dad because you can’t have enough family, I told him if anything my father in law is more of a father to me than him because he’s not forcing anything on me and still loves me like a son, that got him upset and he hung up on me.
Am I wrong here for not atleast pretending this guy is my dad? This is genuinely so weird and exhausting to deal with every single time I wanna talk to or visit my mom
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