“AITA for being upset that my boyfriend and his family didn’t wait for me to open presents Christmas morning?”
My boyfriend and I spent Christmas at his dad’s. The people there for Christmas morning were my boyfriend, his 4 year old daughter, his dad, his dads wife and myself.
I woke up at literally 7 am Christmas morning and my boyfriends daughter had already woken him up and all of them had done presents already. I was upset because growing up we always did presents together on Christmas Day.
None of them woke me up or even tried to wake me up and didn’t bother waiting they just ripped straight into presents. I had to open mine alone while they all started breakfast and I felt extremely left out and like I wasn’t really part of the family.
I was quite upset about this but my boyfriend said I need to just get over it and it’s not a big deal as I already knew what one of my presents was. I think that that doesn’t matter, I also wanted to see his reaction to what I bought him and his daughter’s reaction to the stuff I got her. So AITA for getting upset that they didn’t wait for me to open presents?
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
Throwaway51276
‘NTA. It sounds like they don’t regard you as part of the family, that’s why you don’t feel like you are.’ ‘Your bf sounds extremely insensitive, not only for his reaction to you being upset but for not even attempting to let you join in, particularly if this is the first Christmas you’ve spent with them like this.’
Heavy-Metal-Zwerg
‘NTA and your boyfriend should raise his daughter better and teach her patience,’ Why didn’t He bother to include you to a family activity? Sounds like you are less to him then his family by blood.’
People opened up and shared that they know from experience that if a partner excludes you once, they’re going to exclude you again.
BankLongjumping6795
‘My ex husband’s family did something similar to me. I was working night shift and after work on thanksgiving drove very far to be at their family thing. I took a nap, set and alarm on my phone and my ex’s so he would check to make sure I woke up.’ ‘He ended up taking my phone while I was sleeping and they all ate without me. I was devastated. It never improved.’
It was incredibly rude of the family not to even try to include her. When it comes to Christmas morning, follow the rule of Wham!:Â ‘Wake me up before you go-go.’
