AITAH for staying at my grandparents house after my mom and them got in a fight over gifts for my half siblings?
My mom and her husband don’t like me (16m) spending Christmas with my paternal family if the whole blended family can’t be there. Or at least the whole blended family who are present. They have kind of made it a thing that my paternal family have to include everyone (half siblings and stepsibling included) if they want me. My paternal family include them reluctantly but they don’t treat us all the same, because they’re not related to my step or half siblings and they don’t act as grandparents/aunts/uncles with them.
Earlier today my mom lost her temper because the gifts my half siblings (stepsibling is with their mom) got were not the same as what the actual grandkids got, including me. She told my grandparents that she tolerated it previous years because she knew they didn’t go all out on babies and very young toddlers but with my half siblings being 4 and 3 now they should be getting equal to what we got at that age and they should get nice, thoughtful gifts like all the other kids present.
My grandparents argued back that they will get more or spend more on their actual grandchildren and that guest children will get something but not the same. They said they never consented to being grandparents to my half siblings and they have been clear everyone can be included but it won’t all be equal. My mom said they were supposed to feel like assholes doing that and love my half and step siblings and embrace them and treat them the very same. My mom’s husband was cursing at my grandparents over the gifts too so my grandparents told him to leave.
Mom decided we all would but I told her I was staying and I wasn’t a part of that fight. I told her she knew how they felt and shouldn’t have expected different. Mom tried to make me leave but I said no.
I’m still at my grandparents and mom keeps texting me and she’s angry. Her husband sent me one text telling me I better come home with a good apology to make up for betraying my half siblings like this.
AITAH?
