AITAH for making my wife do all the chores since she used the chore money for herself.
I work out of town at a very physically demanding job. Strangely enough I am really lazy. But I make lots of money so I have no problem paying for people to do all my housework and yardwork. I have a cleaning lady and a kid that mows my lawn and shovels the snow.
My wife knew all of this throughout our relationship. I didn’t keep it a secret or anything. She actually seemed to appreciate that my place was always clean when she came over and that there was more than just pickles and beer in my fridge.
She lived with her parents to save money while she paid off her student loans. We discussed her living with me or even just in my house while I was gone but she wouldn’t go for it. Her family is very traditional.
Anyways we got married in September and she finally moved in with me. She is amazing and I am stunned by how hard a worker she is. I also offered to pay off the remaining balance on her student loans but she won’t agree to that. What she did agree to though was to take over housekeeping and shopping in return for the money I used to pay my housekeeper being added to her budget. It kind of sucked but a couple of the guys I work with took her on so she is okay.
The problem is he dad is big on doing all the work around his house. I am not. I pay people to clean my gutters. I pay plumbers, electricians, whatever. I work extremely hard for 14 days in a row and when I’m home I want to relax. I want to walk my dog and not much more. My dog lived with my parents when I worked but now he is home with my wife.
Since we got married late in the year my lawn didn’t need to be mowed after our honeymoon. We have had a weird year for snow. Like we just got our first big dump. And since I was coming home last night she told the kid not to shovel. And she kept the money. Whatever, we are a partnership. She can make decisions like that.
However, despite whatever her dad has to say about it, I don’t shovel. I could get hurt, or worse sweaty. So this morning I made sure she knew that if the snow wasn’t removed in 48 hours we would get a citation from the city. They would send out a crew to shovel and we would be charged for it at city union labor rates. She said I could shovel. I said I could but I wouldn’t since I had budgeted for someone else to do it. She ended up having to do it herself. She tried calling the kid but he was going to school so he couldn’t do it until afterwards but he had other clients to take care of.
She is mad at me because I could have shoveled. I fully could have. But I didn’t want to. I never want to. That’s why I pay other people to do that shit. I don’t even like that I have to unload the dishwasher now. I used to just throw dishes in there and they would end up in the cupboard.
AITAH for assuming that if she took the money for a job then she would take responsibility for that job getting done?
