AITA??
I’m going to try to keep this as short as possible..
so I’m going to dive right in.. I (34F) and my (ex) have a 8 month old baby together. Since we split (about 3 months ago) the baby has been with me and only me.. he hasn’t taken the child once… despite me actually begging for him to relieve me for a little while…. He doesn’t live far from us, 5 minutes WALKING distance… so I’ve even walked the baby to him and asked him to “watch” his own child so that I could just take a nap and I’d even walk back and get the child in a bit… but he will NOT help me… he also hasn’t been helping financially either and I am really struggling. He is also well aware that I am still suffering from some postpartum depression and I’m still trying to process a lot of feelings I have about the way everything went down when I had our child … at first baby daddy told me “my body my choice” and when I chose to keep the baby, then it was an issue and he left… I then went through the pregnancy alone and an early delivery alone, a whole long NICU stay…alone and then Life with a newborn… Alone, until our child was about three months old and then he came around for a total of about six weeks and acted like dad and partner of the year… but then, as soon as I finally agreed to maybe give us and our relationship another chance, he turned on me again… Said it was “too much”  for him to handle… Again… And he left us again…  so it’s been quite a journey to say the least… Recently, I expressed to him that I would have to take the legal route to get child support from him if he does not step up soon and start helping me with our child… His wages are already being garnished for another child he had previously so he did not like me saying that … he got very defensive and said “don’t play games with me” … And when I expressed that, I wasn’t trying to play games that I simply need help with our child, and things our child needs he then made the comment “that he didn’t even want me to have this child, and it was my choice to still have them”… So he says that everything should be my responsibility completely, and not his at all… I said, I didn’t agree with that because he knew when we got together that I was not comfortable getting an abortion if I ever got pregnant because we had this discussion…  I just don’t understand why he’s being this way at all… But this is where we’re at and he’s really starting to make me think that I’m the one being out of line && that I’m the A** hole ..?!
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