AITA for deciding to cut contact with my mom?
I’m a 22-year-old female, and recently I told my mom I wouldn’t speak to her anymore.
Here’s why: My mom (43) is in the middle of a divorce from her ex-husband (he’s 4 years younger than her). He put her in massive debt, financially abused me, and forced me to pay $500 a month just to live in my room once I turned 16. When I was in high school and bought my first car, his car got repossessed, so he took mine, used it for six months, then took money from me for a new car, never paid me back, then totaled it. He was constantly rude, yelling, abusive to me, my siblings (13F and 5M, my brother is autistic), and my mom. I had to help with rent, food, and even DoorDash meals for my siblings. I worked two jobs at 16 to pay for my own green card. I helped my mom get her own place during the divorce. But she just slept at his house (I checked her location), and her excuse was that if she went home he wouldn’t leave her alone and assume she’s seeing someone else? THEYRE DIVORCED. I had explicitly told her if she ever allowed herself to put me and my siblings through this pain again I could not have a relationship with her. I feel terrible because we are very close and I love my mom, but she has always dumped her problems in my plate and expected me to fix it. I feel she has chosen him over her own children. And this isn’t half of the things he put me through, he is not a good person. I am a senior in college, I live with my boyfriend of 3 years and we are going through the stress of applying to Dental and Medical school and her personal issues deeply affect my performance in school and mood. She called me toxic for saying I’d had enough when all I’ve done is help financially and emotionally. So, am I the asshole?
