AITA –
Bit of context, my only sister (32) had my nephew in June this year, I (25) am currently 28 weeks pregnant with my partner. I adore my nephew and i love my sister but we dont keep everyday contact because she lives in my home country and and im in UK.
Since i told family were expecting our first child, they have been over the moon – which is fantastic but all they do now is compare me to my sister.
Everything i do, eat, buy – is all compared to what she did with my nephew. It became overbearing for me because i i feel like im almost carrying her child. I get that they want the best for me, but we do not have the same life at all, she hasnt worked since she found out she was pregnant, and im working still, she hasnt struggled with the pregnancy like i do, and because it was her first child as well i dont think she has that much more experience to try to tell me what to do, considering things she say sometimes are very much opposite of what i get told from midwifes/doctors.
Ive never been the favourite child, but i feel like theyre now trying to make me like her?
Recent example was that my mum helped us paint the house as we just bought it, she kept saying she doesnt like the way we decorated the babys room (its literally safari themed) and i should decorate it like my sisters ( she doesnt have seperate room for my nephew just now)
She also said i need to take my pram downstairs because i will be using it to put baby to sleep like my sister, i said this isnt happening, we have bought several things to keep the baby asleep downstairs and upstairs and im not about to roll a dirty pram across my floors just to put baby to sleep when we have other options.
They have also had an argument with me regarding breastfeeding as i said im not going to do it like my sister, because i have medication i need to go back on once baby is here and its not safe to breastfeed on it.
They have also had a major fall out with me because i went to a concert around 16 weeks pregnant (that ive waited for 7 years and bought tickets over a year ago) saying im deluded and im harming the baby.
They are really making me feel like im failing and the babys not even here yet!
So AITA for gradually stepping back from them, ive stopped answering group calls as much and i nip it in the bud whenever baby talk comes out their mouth
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