My ex girlfriend got pissy I wouldn’t pay her way, so I made sure she covered everything she owed.
My ex gf and I split up a while ago and genuinely wanted be friends; it wasn’t a messy breakup or anything, it was just distance that ruined it.
We had the amazing idea of taking a trip together. In my right mind, I’d have been against this, but I’d also just started some new meds which stopped me thinking straight and I was just focussed on how much I enjoyed it when we travelled together.
She’d booked the hotels as we went and we’d agreed to split the cost. I also wound up paying for pretty much everything there (food, admissions, transport etc) as it was easier just doing it that way when on the move. Some such admissions were the equivalent of around £50 ($67USD).
After the trip, which wasn’t great tbh, the first thing she did was text me remind me that I owed her for the hotels, which was before I’d even got on my flight back.
I said no problem, I’m going to work out what I owe with the admissions off etc.
Her response: “You’re not going to pay because I don’t love you any more? Haha that’s pretty funny.”
Typically, I don’t mind buying things for people at all and wasn’t even going to mention the food and drinks etc as I generally do better than she does, but that comment was just so unnecessarily bitchy.
I went through my expenses for the trip and got the exact amounts of everything I’d spent on her, copied the receiptsvetc and then went back and said “that’s exactly right, we aren’t in a relationship, after all. Turns out I’ve spent the cost of the hotels and then a little more, so I think we’re about even.”
What I said was true and I didn’t send her a penny more. She was just expecting me to pay for everything as that’s how we were when together.
She hasn’t spoken to me since and I’m fine with that.
