It can be great to help out your family by offering them a place to stay when they’re going through a hard time, but if they are disrespectful of your belongings, it’s hard to want to let them stay.
If you were in a situation like this, would you kick the family members out or set some strict ground rules?
In this story, one man agrees to let his brother-in-law and his two daughters move in with him, his wife and his daughter. But when the daughters are disrespectful of his daughter, he goes into papa bear mode and jumps to her defense.
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AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter’s door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?
My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.
His sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren’t close but get along fine.
Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey’s privacy, none.
Let’s read the whole story.
AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter’s door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?
My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.
His sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren’t close but get along fine.
Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey’s privacy, none.
This is definitely a problem.
They used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc.
Zoey complained a lot and I’ve already asked the girls to respect Zoey’s privacy and stop taking things.
My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they’re girls and this’s typical teenage girls behavior.
I completely disagreed.
She has every right to be upset about this. Sloan should buy her a new one.
Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it.
Don’t know much about makeup but that’s what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.
I told my wife and she said she’d ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!
Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren’t happy, the girls were extremely upset.
I think I’d kick Sammy out after what he said.
Sammy asked about it and I straight up told him.
He said “my daughters aren’t thieves!!! it’s normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff” he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn’t even be buying expensive – adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this “defect” in Zoey’s personality trying to appear older than she is.
He accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.
I told him this’s between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey’s door for her cousins to see and preventing them from “spending time” with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it
He made a very good point.
But I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.
She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family’ll hate me for this.
So I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which’s something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn’t for her family’s unwillingness to help we wouldn’t be dealing with this much disturbance at home.
Everyone’s been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.
I’m so glad OP is on his daughter’s side. I’m honestly surprised her mom isn’t on her side. Sloan should apologize and replace the makeup. AND the lock stays.
Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.
Zoey needs him to keep standing up for her.
It’s crazy that his wife is on her brother’s side.
Stealing is not normal teen behavior.
Here’s a vote for kicking them out.
I agree with all of this advice.
If they don’t kick the in-laws out, their marriage may not last.
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