I am a 52yo woman. When I was 10 my parents divorced, dad leaving mom for a woman w/kids that were older than me and my sister, essentially they didnt live at home(important for later). My whole early childhood my dad had a guitar. Nothing fancy, an old Telecaster from the 60s. He promised it to me for as long as I can remember. My stepbrother, Ronnie(real name because who cares), plays and I dont. The argument started when I was 16, he thinks he should get it because he plays, and I think I shpuld get it because, well, its my dad and its been promised to me.

About 15 years ago my sister and I went down for a visit and both stepsiblings and my dad and stepmom sat down with us and we went through the house dividing up what we wanted. I ONLY WANTED THE GUITAR. Not either of the classic cars, not the juke box, nothing but the guitar. We argued for a couple hours before Ronnie gave in and shut up about it. It was all written down and we all signed it. I never brought it up again.

Christmas of 2023 my dad came up for a visit. We spent plenty of time together. When he was with my mom and sister he casually mentioned “hey, I gave the guitar to Ron”… my mom and sis were speechless. After a bit, they asked if he was going to tell me, he said he didnt think it was important. After he left, my mom told me. I was so pissed, I cant even describe it. He called me after a few days and said “hey, you dont mind that i gave the guitar to Ronnie, do you?” I said “yes, yes I do.” And that he better get it back. Well, that turned into a whole thing. Ronnie had been bugging my dad about it every weekend for months and since I hadnt asked about it in a long time, he figured I didnt want it anymore. Yeah, I didnt ask about it because my dad is STILL ALIVE. Do you bug relatives for inheritances while theyre still alive? I dont.

So, after a lot of back and forth, I told him to forget it but never to txt me again. He txts me every holiday and birthday, but I ignore him. Am I the asshole?