AITA for not driving two hours to my bf for his birthday in a snow storm?

So I had the flu two weeks ago and we agreed not to hang last weekend out of caution and to let me rest. His birthday was during the week and we’d planned for me to celebrate with him and his family this weekend (He was away on a work trip which is why we couldn’t see each other during the week). I had an absolutely horrible work week and got some really horrible news last night about a close friend. He found out last night that the forecast was for heavy snow today and tomorrow, and said to me that “I need to be at his place early then”, to which I said, uh no I need to take it easy but I will watch the weather and do my best. Fast forward to this morning, this snow storm is worse than we thought. Not once has he said sorry about the bad news or relieved me of this ‘obligation’ to drive to his house (two hours from me in a pretty secluded area where it’s unlikely they’ve cleared the roads) – instead he’s just updating me about the roads. When we spoke on the phone an hour ago he said “well this is why I suggested you get here early.” ….for one, he was busy this morning with another obligation. Two, I warned him my tires aren’t great and while my father checked them out and said they’re ok generally, it’s still important to keep that in mind. Plus, we just got new insurance and if something happens during this probation period, we’ll get dropped, which I shared with him. Three, his text yesterday was not written in a suggestive manner, but came off as an order.

He just said to me “let’s wait it out because it stopped snowing here”…. Let’s just say, my dad is annoyed and honestly so am I. And he’s ticked off that my dad is annoyed too. It’s just not really safe at this point in my small little two wheel drive car to drive two hours out when the storm has gotten worse than predicted. And he didn’t express any sympathy or care about my safety, despite saying “of course I’m concerned”…AITA for snapping at his directive and not driving to him in this storm?

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