AITA??? 
Where it started:
My Mother in Law came over for a pizza making dinner. We have a pizza oven, and she loved the pizzas so much that she didn’t allow my kids or myself to make our own pizzas. She prepared them all (ugh) and suggested we do this again for her birthday. I was all for it (our house is the “hosting” house), until she said it would be on a Monday. Weekends are open, Monday’s are jam packed. She insisted it would be just herself and maybe her daughter (to drive her), in case she wanted a few adult bevs, so we agreed.
How it ended :
We drive in from out of town LATE Sunday night, gathered all of the ingredients for a pizza making Monday dinner, and called it a night.
Come Monday.. I do all of my house cleaning, driving for my kids, and a now some added birthday shopping and decorating. My husband works a 15 hour day, and last minute his mother drops on us 4 extra guests. We can’t bring ourselves to entertain on such short notice 4 extra people. ESPECIALLY, because my husband works long hours and was tired.
At this point, my husband is exhausted, I’m in no mood to go to the grocery store to buy more food, and we decide to break the news to her. We tell her no. Not on a Monday, not at short notice. She offers to buy more ingredients, she insists we accommodate her guests, because she shouldn’t have to ask, they are HER (adult) kids. We stand our ground and she basically tells my husband “NEVERMIND… your wife is to blame, I know it’s your wife”. Like really? My husband works long hours and I’ve been the only one that accommodates her whole family. My husband usually joins the event after work. We’ve never said no, and had she said beforehand she wanted more company, we would have suggested having it on the weekend.
Where we are today:
March will be a year. She hasn’t spoken to us. She insists I’m the A-hole …B!tch… whatever… I’m so frustrated, because I honestly don’t feel I had any bad intentions… I feel so bad for my husband, and I need advice on how to move forward and navigate this. I don’t want to be the asshole… but sometimes it’s a fine line between standing your ground or letting people walk all over you.
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