This Dad Really Told His Terrified Wife That 10-Pound Babies Are “No Problem” Because His Mom Did It Three Times and We Are Sending Him Into Orbit

We have all encountered a man who thinks he is a medical expert because he watched his mom do something thirty years ago, but one expectant father on Reddit just won the gold medal in the “Audacity Olympics.” Imagine being 36 weeks pregnant, having a doctor tell you that your baby is already measuring over 8 pounds, and facing the very real possibility of a C-section or a traumatic delivery. Now imagine your husband looking you in the eye and telling you to stop “sulking” because his mother birthed three giants “naturally” with zero issues. If you have ever wanted to hand a man a watermelon and a set of instructions on how to mind his own business, this story is for you.

The Original Poster (OP) and his wife just had a late-term ultrasound where they discovered their son is already a absolute unit. The doctor warned that he could easily be a 10-pounder by the time he arrives, which is enough to make any woman’s pelvic floor scream in terror. His wife was understandably upset and mentally preparing for a major abdominal surgery or a very intense vaginal birth. But instead of offering a back rub or a pint of ice cream, the OP decided to pull out the ultimate b!tch move: comparing his wife’s body to his mother’s “glory days.”

The OP told his wife she was “worrying way too much” because his mom popped out three 9-pound babies with “no issue.” It is a level of haughty b!tch energy to suggest that because your mother’s anatomy handled a certain situation, every other woman on the planet should just “relax” and get on with it. He even tried to use the “technical angle” by pointing out that ultrasounds can be inaccurate, which might be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that his wife is the one who has to actually push a human out of her body.

When his wife inevitably had a breakdown because her husband was being a total ahole, the OP decided to double down. Instead of apologizing and acknowledging her very valid fears, he suggested she talk to his mom. When she clearly said “no thanks,” he decided to ignore her boundaries and called his mom anyway, asking her to reach out to his “sulking” wife. It is a sh!t-show of a move to weaponize your mother against your pregnant wife when she is already feeling vulnerable.

The emotional commentary here is honestly painful. Pregnancy is not a team sport where the husband gets to coach from the sidelines using his mom’s stats. Every body is different, and every birth is different. To tell a woman she shouldn’t be worried about a 10-pound baby is total bullsh!t. It’s dismissive, it’s unsupportive, and it shows a complete lack of empathy for the physical reality of what his wife is about to go through.

The OP’s “Edit” only makes it worse. He points out that his mom is “smaller than his wife,” as if that is some kind of scientific proof that his wife will be fine. It is a b!tch move to reduce your wife’s birth experience to a comparison of heights and weights. He doesn’t seem to understand that a C-section is a major surgery and a vaginal birth of a large baby can lead to serious tearing and long-term complications. He treats it like she’s worried about a stubbed toe.

His wife told him he was being unsupportive, and he genuinely “doesn’t get it.” That is the most frustrating part of this entire sh!t-show. He thinks he is “helping” by providing “evidence” of success, but all he’s doing is k!lling the trust she has in him as a partner. When a woman is scared about her body and her baby, she needs her husband to be a safe space, not a cheerleader for his mother’s legendary uterus.

Let’s be real for a second: calling your wife “sulking” because she is afraid of medical complications is a total ahole move. She isn’t pouting because she didn’t get a new toy; she is facing a massive medical event. The OP is acting like he’s the logical one, but his “logic” is just a way to avoid having to deal with his wife’s actual emotions.

The internet’s reaction was a unanimous vote that he is the ahole. You don’t get to tell a pregnant person how to feel about their delivery, and you definitely don’t bring your mother into the mix when you’ve been told to stay out of it. He took a situation that was already stressful and turned it into a family feud where his wife feels ganged up on.

This story is a reminder to all the partners out there: if your wife is scared, just listen. You don’t need to fix it, and you definitely don’t need to bring up your mom’s birthing history. Unless you are the one pushing a 10-pound human out of your own body, your opinion on the “difficulty level” is absolutely irrelevant.

So, is he the ahole? Yes. He dismissed her feelings, ignored her boundaries, and treated her fears like an inconvenience. He needs to stop calling his mom and start buying his wife whatever she wants for dinner while he apologizes for being a total ahole.

What would you do if your husband told you birthing a 10-pounder was “no big deal”? Is this guy just “trying to help,” or is he the most tone-deaf partner in the history of Reddit? Let us know in the comments if you’d ever let your mother-in-law weigh in on your delivery room fears!