AITA for wanting to give up on my marriage while 21 weeks pregnant?
My husband (39M) and I (31F) have been fighting at least once a week throughout my pregnancy. This morning at 5am he told me he wanted to join a weekly golf league with his friend. I turned over to go back asleep and he asked me how I felt about it. I told him I was a little upset because I felt like I was unable to hang out my only friend in the area because of how he’s treated her in the past.
For context, my husband is an alcoholic (but sober since the pregnancy), and every time I had my friend over in the past he would make her very uncomfortable by getting beligerently drunk and starting fights with me in front of her and her daughter. He would call her stupid all the time for things like me -not her- leaving a candle on while we went to the store, or one time she accidentally didnt close the garden hose entirely when she was washing dog poo off her daughter’s shoe. I had her daughter’s class photo on my fridge and some drawings she drew for me, and my husband ripped them up. He doesn’t have any logical reason to not like her, he says it’s because she’s stupid, even though she just graduated from university with honours to become an RN.
Anyways, when I told him I felt like it was unfair for him to start hanging out with friends while I’m unable to hang out with my only friend (I don’t have a car), he went on to justify calling her stupid again and he made excuses for why he made her feel uncomfortable in the past. This started a major fight because I started to get offended. For the millionth time, he said my parents breed stupid children that can only work for minimum wage (my sister has disabilities where she can’t hold down a job, but my brother works for corporate, and I work for my husband). He drove off and blocked me but then continued to email me threatening a divorce (for the 100th time).
He tried to make up with me a few hours later after I said it doesnt make sense to spend thousands of dollars on divorce lawyers instead of a couple hundred on therapy. He said we could work through it on own without therapy. Fast forward to a few hours after that, and we are at it again and he’s blocked me again. I told him working through it on our own is not working and we need therapy. He said that if we go to therapy we need to sell my camper trailer because we cant afford to go camping anymore to afford the therapy.
I’m so tired. I feel like my entire pregnancy has been so miserable. I feel like there’s no hope in getting along with him. AITA if I leave my marriage at 21 weeks pregnant?
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