oh god … my wife of 10 years has just let our home
Let me give context…
Been together in a same sex couple for 10 years and married for 2
My wife has self diagnosed herself with adhd ( she does in fact show some traits) . I fully understand and support her . She works part time hours 3 days a week and makes a lot of money for the hours she does ! I work sooo many hours for not very good pay. Other than those 3 days a week working she lives her life like a teenager in my view . She games ALOT . Doesn’t clean the house , goes to the gym , games some more , TikTok’s , goes out with her friend , visits her family comes home and games all evening EVERY DAY!
Sometimes she will flick the vacuum round quickly. So I work , clean , cook , sort the dogs, rubbish washing , etc and I honestly feel like I’m living with a teen ! I’ve begged for help
And a little more support and for her to tone down the gaming and live like the 35yr old married with a family woman that she is .. I’ve asked so many times “ do you have to be constantly on the phone to your friend , game with that friend on headsets , go gym , visit your family with the friend not to mention the all day and night texting and she says it’s normal and I’m the mental one for thinking it’s not … just to add , this friend of hers has recently come out of a long term relationship and is single now and just to be clear there’s absolutely nothing between them romantically and I know this for sure ! But my wife literally has zero responsibilities and zero regard or thought for how this affects me and our marriage.
So just before Xmas time my wife said herself that her friend was too much and she would back off from her a bit . The other day I asked if she had ( knowing full well she hasn’t) and she’s gone mad !
I’m a f ing miserable b****, it’s me with the problem, she believes she’s living a grown up normal life etc etc etc
It’s ended up
With her saying that basically she’s sorry I don’t like who she is and also sorry she’s not enough for me!
Admitting that she’s lazy and immature and if I don’t like the way she is then she’s leaving because she’s tried her hardest to be the best she can and I’m a freak for not thinking it’s good enough!
Please someone tell me an opinion! Ask questions and I’ll honestly answer them. But please help
Me understand what it is I’ve done wrong? Surely her way of life for the past 2 years or so isn’t a normal life for someone married with a family at 35 is it or aita for thinking things should be different? Thanks so much for reading 😭
