AITAH for announcing my pregnancy on Xmas
Hi using a throwaway cuz my boyfriend loves Reddit.
I ( 26f) recently found out I’m pregnant, very early still and I hadn’t told my partner ( 28m) yet. I thought it would be adorable if I wrapped up a vintage baby rattle with a note attached saying “ I’m pregnant” under the tree and gave it to him as one of his presents.
We have spoken about possibly getting engaged in 2026 and we have spoken about us both wanting kids before he turns 30. We have also been together for almost 5 years now as we met in university. We live together too so I never even thought there could be any reason why my pregnancy would be a negative thing.
Anyway it came to Christmas everything was perfect and I kept the rattle to be the final present. He opens it and reads the note then drops the rattle. He then turns and glares at me and shouts about how could I do this to him that I’ve forced him into having a child grabs his coat and storms out. We haven’t spoken since. I’ve messaged him and I can see he has read it all but no responses. I found out from his sister that he is at her house spending Christmas with them. He hasn’t told her or anyone I’m guessing about it as she knew nothing just thought he had come as a surprise.
I really don’t know what to do? I’m now worried that maybe it wasn’t the right way to do it and that I should’ve brought it up in a gentler manner in conversation or something like that? No one else knows about the pregnancy as it is still very early stages ( 6 weeks)
Aitha for announcing it at Xmas?
Edit: I forgot to say but it was just the two of us at home for Christmas
Edit 2: hey guys I’ve been reading everyone’s responses and well I’m overwhelmed, I agree with a lot of you. I’m going to go to my partners sisters to talk but I think I will be leaving the relationship. Clearly I was too gullible. I’m also thinking hard about this pregnancy I don’t know what to do right now because my heads a mess but I’ve got some big decisions to make.
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