Boyfriend told me to move out after a fight over a wedding invitation and I did.
I (30F) have been dating my boyfriend (30M) for about five months. During this time he consistently pressured me to get him added to the guest list of a wedding that I was a bridesmaid in which took place earlier this month. He did not know anyone who would be attending other than me. This wedding started being planned over two years ago and I felt weird asking to have him added to the guest list, so I kept telling him I didn’t think that it would be possible and he kept getting angrier about it. He was not happy when I left on the day of the wedding.
The wedding went great, and I wound up having quite a bit of champagne since I was with friends and we were celebrating. By the end of the night I didn’t feel safe to drive home (about a 40 mile drive), so I called him to let him know I was going to stay with my friend Lauren and would be home in the morning. He was very upset that I wasn’t coming home and we got into a fight over the phone. At one point a group of people walked by (I was outside the venue) and they stopped to ask if I was okay, and when my boyfriend heard me responding to them, he got more upset and started demanding to know who I was talking to and saying “who are you talking to, I’ll k*ll them”. A couple minutes after this Lauren came outside and after listening to a few minutes of my convo with my boyfriend, she gently took my phone and calmly explained to him that she was taking me home and putting me to bed, and that I would talk to him in the morning.
When I got home early the next morning he had locked me out of our bedroom and would not let me in. When he finally came out he coldly said “you have 1 week to get out of my house” and then ignored me the rest of the day. This freaked me out so I talked to Lauren who said I could stay in her guest room while I looked for a new place to live. When he realized I was actually going to leave, he backtracked and told me to stay, and said we could work on our relationship, but I decided it was better to just move out. The day I moved out he was being very physically menacing and trying to block me from packing, and I wound up needing to call a police escort so I could safely gather my things and leave. The day after I left he sent me an email saying that I had 5 days to mail his house key back registered mail with a 10K insurance policy on the parcel, and he would send police to my workplace if I didn’t do this.
AIO for feeling unsafe and leaving? AITA for not getting him invited to the wedding? Me being there without him is what brought all this to a head and I feel like it’s my fault for not finding a way to get him invited since he likes to spend as much time with me as possible. He has gotten upset when I’ve wanted to hang out with friends without him and kept me from doing it. He sticks around the house every day (his work schedule is hybrid and flexible) until I’ve left for work and then makes sure he’s back home again before I am, and gets upset if I want to stay up and read/watch TV instead of going to sleep with him when he’s ready for bed.
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