AITA if I tell my brother he and his family can’t stay at my house again?
My brother came to stay with my family near Christmas. (His idea, not mine). Because they drove across the country they stayed in several hotels to get here. I don’t think they could’ve afforded staying in hotels the whole time they were in town. My moms house is too tiny to fit them all. We have extended family (and my dad) on the other side of the state, and after a few days they left and stayed there instead. But while they were here, they had their kids up SUPER late being loud and keeping my family up. I have 3 kids, pregnant with my 4th. It has put a huge burden on our schedules. I was already exhausted and honestly now I’m pissed at the level of exhaustion it added to my life. Then my daughter told me they also tried to make her follow their rules. For example: ‘you need to keep your door open for our daughters safety.’ She’s 9, she sleeps with the door closed every night and no one said her cousin needed to stay in her room, she could’ve stayed with them instead. I get the need for safety, but she didn’t invite the cousin in there. She also felt like she couldn’t go downstairs to grab a drink of water, etc.
Personally when I travel I don’t like to stay in peoples homes, because I would rather have my own space.
It’s been a couple days since they left, and our schedules are still thrown from them and it’s ruining our plans we had long before we even knew they were coming. They’re getting ready to move so it’s not likely to happen anytime soon, but frankly I don’t want it to happen again. Ever. I don’t know how to address it really but it’s caused serious resentment.
AITA if I say they can visit during the day but can’t stay here?
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