AITAH for filing for child support?
I (19F) broke up with my baby daddy/ex (19M) around like 3 months ago? We were together for 3.5 years. We have a 10 month old son together. (No..not planned.) He wouldnt help me with anything. I didnt have time to eat. Time to shower. He would go out and party and drink on the weekends. Constantly stoned. I would beg for help – i struggled (and still am struggling) with some severe PPD.
I mentally gave him a week. After begging for 2 years with no change, it was kind of just a “if nothing changes now, im going to leave” situation. I made a plan so our child and myself would be safe with a roof over our heads. I had the conversation with him when he got off work and that was that. I was told he “didnt realize it was that bad”. I sobbed. I begged. I just needed him to grow up and be a parent because I didnt have a choice.
Anyways, I moved out and now live at my parents house with my current boyfriend (he is helping me emotionally/financially) who is stepping up and being more of a dad than my baby daddy ever even attempted to be.
I just filed for child support. My baby daddy said that im being a b!tch. (Our child is on MA. Because we dont live together, if I didnt file then the state would once I changed my address. And I need the help.) I explained to him that I didnt really have an option. He takes him once a week (if that) for 4 hours. (His own choice.)
Im being told that if i file for child support, he is going to take me to court to try to get full custody of our child. Mind you, the last two weekends he was supposed to take him he was late because he was out drinking with his sister & girlfriend the night before. Totally disregarding the fact that our child has a set schedule (feedings, naps, playtime).
He just lost his job, isn’t even on unemployment, and is currently staying in the apartment that has both of our names on the lease (and destroying it.)
I got fed up. I told him he needs to either be present or absent. If he wants to prioritize getting laid over our child that’s fine but then he needs to stay gone.
Now im being told I was too harsh. I just dont know what to do here. All I want is to be a good mom.
AITAH?
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