AITA for telling my son his gf can only come over when he is home?
My two son’s live in a house I own (21 and 19). I specifically have them paying only utilities because we know times are tough. Its equally divided between the two. The conditions were pay utilities, keep a room for me and get along. The younger (19) has a gf. Lets call her Liz. Ever since I moved out Liz has been inviting herself over whenever she wants even when he’s not home. I had no problem until today when my oldest was sharing a story. See my room growing up was the “hang out” spot for the kids. The living room was always vancant because they liked my room and tv best. So that’s basically been the comon room their entire lives. But since moving out my youngest moved his bed in with my permission. But with the understanding that it is the common room and his brother likes hanging out there. Well a couple days ago his (19M) gf(20F) came over when he wasnt home. My other son has no issues with her so he let her in. He went to my room to watch movies and she followed. He was on the futon in the corner she was in the bed son (19) moved in. Half way through the movie they were watching (again in my room a common shared space) she tells asks him to leave bc shes uncomfortable with him there and wants to nap. He leaves cause what is he to say? The next day my other son confronts him asking about what happened and told him to stay out of the room. I found out today about this. Like I said my room has always been a common room and that was the understanding of my leaving. So I set a rule that the gf can only be at the house when my son (19) is home and to never be at the house when hes not there. He thinks this is unreasonable. I told him his if his gf is uncomfortable with my other son being around in his house when hes not there then she shouldnt be there. Am I the asshole?
