AITA for being upset that my girlfriend went out drinking with another guy when I’ve been feeling really depressed?
I (23M) live with my girlfriend (23F). We’ve been together long term and generally have a good relationship, but lately I’ve been struggling a lot mentally. I’ve been feeling really depressed and lonely.
Even though we live together, we don’t actually spend much time together anymore. She recently went back to work and goes to bed pretty early, so most days we barely get quality time. Yesterday was especially hard for me, and I really wanted her to come home and spend time with me because I was having a really rough day.
Instead, she went out drinking with a friend she met at work, and two of her friends, one being a guy I don’t know at all. This is where things get complicated: she has cheated on me in the past. Because of that, situations like this make me feel extremely uncomfortable and anxious. I’ve told her multiple times before that her going out drinking with this guy makes me uncomfortable, mostly because I don’t know him and because of our history.
But she went out anyway, it really hurt my feelings. I’m not trying to control who she sees or stop her from having friends, and I didn’t yell or accuse her of anything. I just told her that it upset me and that I want to feel heard, especially given my mental health and our past.
Anytime I’ve talked to her about it she says I’m overreacting and says I should trust her. And I do trust her a lot more now, but I don’t trust him, as I don’t even know this man, and from what she has said, he’s a flirty guy, who has a type that just so happens to be like her. My partner is a sexual type of person when she gets drunk, wants to take all of her clothes off and stuff… I just feel like my feelings are being dismissed, especially considering the cheating history and how low I’ve been feeling lately.
So, AITA for being upset about this and wanting her to take my feelings into account?
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