Am I the a hole? My boyfriend wants me to accept his 2 babies who his ex did ivf to have and they are now in his care.
When they were together they tried ivf and failed and they still had frozen embryos.. well she used them to make the twins who are now a month old. I was accepting them and we had plans for me to move in together and help him raise them and I be the new mom because bio mom is a pos and abusive. Didn’t even care about babies care, wellbeing or safety and just wanted to do what she wanted. I was going to but wanted to take my cat that I’ve had since before I even met him and I feel like he wants me to accept his kids that I didn’t make but he won’t accept my 1 cat that gives me comfort.. it’s not that I wouldn’t love the kids but it made me feel like he wants me there because it’s good for him and accept his kids but I’ve always said the cat was my baby before this and he knew how much the cat means to me.. I can accept his kids that was kinda unexpected and hurt me to find out and he told me kinda late in the pregnancy and yes I cried because I didn’t know what was going to happen between us and everything but it almost makes me want to leave because the fact I’m accepting his twins and even willing to take care of them but he won’t accept my cat who makes me happy.. yes him and I planned on having our own kid but I’m not sure I even want that now.. we had an opportunity to have one before and didn’t so idk maybe it’s just fate and we r not supposed to.. I kinda see it as if we were meant to then maybe we already would have…. We could have before I even knew she was pregnant with the twins I had no idea but he knew and didn’t tell me because he was afraid I’d leave. I do love him but I feel like it’s more unfair to me but idk maybe I’m overreacting.. he said once we are together he wants a kid asap with me and yes I’ve wanted my own kid but I think 3 babies would be to much
