AITA for not buying a coffee maker for guests?
Me and my husband do not drink coffee. So we do not have a coffee maker or any coffee beans. He has a friend who lives hours away and he sees him in person once every year or two. Usually when he comes up, he brings his girlfriend.
They stayed over for a few days last year. Before they came, I asked if they wanted any food or drinks to have in the house and I told them what we normally kept stocked in the house. They didn’t make any requests.
The first morning the girlfriend wanted coffee. I told her we did not have any way to make coffee here, but I could bring her to the coffee shop which was 2 minutes away. She declined but her mood seemed sour after that. We hung out with other mutual friends for the day and I learned from one of them that she was really upset we didn’t have a way to make coffee at home because she needs it in the morning. Each morning I offered to bring her to the coffee shop and she always declined. I even offered it as my treat in case they didn’t have the money. She declined still.
Well they came over again a year later. I still didn’t have a coffee maker because we don’t drink coffee. This time, she called me a bad host to my face because I had them over knowing she needs her coffee and I didn’t get anything to make coffee.
I am a people pleaser. And I go huge lengths to make guests most comfortable. But I can’t justify having a coffee maker we don’t use for maybe a once per year guest. I don’t have the storage space for it.
I talked to people about it and some think I was right, we don’t drink coffee, we don’t have it. But a lot of others think that if you ever have guests, you should have coffee available. And this makes me think of my mom and grandma who always had coffee ready within minutes of guests arriving, expected or not. So this skews my view.
AITA for not having a coffee maker and coffee beans when I knew a guest who needs coffee comes to stay at my house?
ETA: I’m getting a lot of comments about how they’re cheap. Yes I know. I can afford one. But I don’t have space to store something I won’t use except maybe once per year. Yes, they’re small. But I don’t have space in my kitchen. Which is why I offered to bring her to get coffee somewhere.
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