My wife’s dad died on Christmas in 2022. She doesn’t let us celebrate Christmas since then.
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My father-in-law died on 25 Dec 2022. Extremely sad, unfortunate, my wife has been taking therapy since then.
Although we’ve two kids (currently 6F, 8F) we didn’t celebrate 2023 & 2024 Christmas, because my wife wasn’t ready. I respected that, didn’t put lights or decos, just 2 pair of gifts for the kids.
Honestly speaking, me & our daughters didn’t had a good bond with her dad, because he was terminally ill since years.
Since his death, I’m doing everything to support my wife. There’s not a single advice her therapist gave me which I didn’t follow. Trips, gifts, taking over 60% of work, staying calm when she shouts, getting her positive books and pushing her to focus on her hobbies and what not.
Her therapist, since around a year, just says one thing, that my wife needs to push herself now. We can help her to a certain extent, she needs to make efforts herself.
I was really excited for 2025 Christmas (mainly for kids, they kept asking us why we don’t celebrate Christmas like x & y (their friends) which honestly drained my heart. I’ve been encouraging my wife too since October.
I was really expecting her to move on this time but again, she started behaving the same a week before Christmas and now, I was honestly fed up with her. For how many years are we gonna miss our family’s Christmas, that too I call the best years, as our kids are of perfect age to celebrate it.
I asked her this in a straight tone, got no reply other than a moody behavior from her. This time I decided to prioritize our daughters’ happiness and did the arrangements, decorations with them, while still trying to push my wife but she got highly irritated, upset as if why we’re even celebrating.
Her behavior continued and I had a breaking point at some moment, I hold her shoulders and asked her in a high tone about till when is this going to last and why she’s so keen to ruin the best time of our lives, she’s upset like a very spoiled teenager always AITA here
Her siblings and even mom have moved on and celebrating Christmas fully since 2024.
