AITA for asking my husband to confirm our son’s eye doctor appointment that he scheduled
AITA here?
A few days ago, my husband made a yearly eye exam appointment for our son. Today while I was working, I received a voicemail from the eye doctor’s office asking to call back to confirm the appointment. (I am unable to answer my personal phone during work hours, so call went straight to voicemail.) During a quick work break, I forwarded the voicemail via text to my husband – as he was the one that had originally made the appointment and I had assumed would be the one taking him as well.
My husband replied to me via text “You can confirm that” to which I replied “Not your secretary” . Later that night, I told him his text upset me because it made me feel like I am supposed to be his personal secretary. He said he expects me to confirm the doctor appointment since I am the mother & they called me. I explained that since he made the appointment and would be taking our child to the appointment, that he needs to followup and confirm the appointment. We got into a huge argument over it. Ultimately, I said that we would have to agree to disagree, but I wasn’t going to confirm an appointment I hadn’t scheduled. I said I did my part by forwarding a message that was for him – him being the person that scheduled the appointment.
I also stated that IF I had been able to answer my phone, I would have told them to call him to confirm and given the office his phone number to call him. So again, I was firm in believing he should be the one to confirm the appointment.
I then expressed that I felt appreciative that he took the initiative to schedule the eye exam appointment and I was assuming he was taking him too. To which he said that hasn’t been determined yet. I was now further upset if he thought I was supposed to take my son to the appointment as I wasn’t consulted on the day/time for the appointment to begin with. (FYI, the appointment was scheduled on a Friday & my husband has off on Fridays. so I know darn well he was planning to take our son to the appointment.) Somehow, the argument turned into why I hadn’t made the appointment to begin with since I’m the mother. The argument got way out of hand over a simple routine eye exam.
AITA for forwarding the voicemail to my husband and expecting him to handle the confirmation?
