AITA for telling my wife it’s disgusting that she doesn’t wash her hands after she poops?
Not the A-hole
Our water was shut off today temporarily, and we both had to use the bathroom. I went first, and used the running water from our RO system to wash my hands, since that was the only option besides hand sanitizer. After my wife used the bathroom she immediately sat on the couch next to me, and I asked her “are you going to wash your hands?” She said that she’s not using our only drinking water to wash her hands. That would be understandable, but the plumber will be here within the hour to fix the problem. And also we can go to the store if we really run out of water. I said well at least use hand sanitizer and she said her hands were clean, and then she informed me that she doesn’t wash her hands every time she poops! I told her that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene. She said if she doesn’t get poop on her hands she doesn’t wash. I again said that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene practice. She thinks I’m overreacting and being an asshole, and now she’s refusing to talk to me until I apologize. I don’t think I need to apologize for anything, and I’m not overreacting. So was I being an asshole or am I overreacting? Is that not disgusting?
EDIT: we do have a bidet if that makes a difference? Personally, I don’t think it does because you’re still touching the toilet seat and handle.
She seems to be more caught up on my reaction to this news, she said I raised my voice but I don’t think I did. Even if I did, I feel like that’s a normal reaction after finding this out from your partner of several years. She’s demanding an apology, but it seems like she’s trying to turn the tables so I forget why I brought it up in the first place. I initially made her repeat herself several times because I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I then was like we need to have a conversation about this and that’s when I told her that it was extremely disgusting that she doesn’t wash her hands. I feel like I was as nice as anyone could be, but please let me know if I should go about it another way.
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