I (31f) married my husband (37m) in December then moved in with him and his daughter (15f). The mom (41f) is in the picture but my stepdaughter lives us full-time.
On the 1st day of school after Christmas break for my stepdaughter, I was to drive her to school. When she was “ready,” she was in pajamas that smelled like gym clothes. She had pimple patches all over her face. Her hair was messy and greasy. But I didn’t say anything. She’s 15 and in 10th grade, I figured she’s old enough to dress herself. Plus if her mom and dad don’t have a problem with it, why should I.
My mom (53f) came to visit. My mom looked like her eyes would fall out of her head when she saw how my stepdaughter looked when she came home from school.
My mom asked how on earth I’m allowing my stepdaughter to go to school like that. I told my mom nobody asked for my input and it wasn’t my decision. She called me, my husband, and my stepdaughter’s mom bad parents for allowing her to look like that at school. I asked my mom to leave my house. Am I the asshole ?
EDIT
This edit is for the wonderful people who are concerned about my stepdaughter. I agree I’m the AH. I now understand this is not normal. I will do my best to get her professional help.
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