WIBTA if I fake being sick to skip Christmas Day with most of my family because I didn’t ask my stepmom to adopt me after my stepsister asked my dad to adopt her?
Yesterday my stepsister (9f) asked my dad to adopt her while everyone was gathered for Christmas Eve. By everyone I mean me, dad, stepsister, stepmom, stepmom’s family and dad’s family. My dad was so happy and my stepsister was ecstatic when dad said yes. Once that all calmed down almost everyone was looking at me (16f). My stepmom couldn’t stop looking at me, it was awkward af. But I had zero plan to ask her to adopt me and I was freaking out that she might ask to adopt me. It didn’t happen but there were questions being asked and I was basically encouraged to ask her by my grandparents, some of my aunts and some of my stepmom’s family.
By the end of the day I was so ready for it all to be over. When I wasn’t in the room I could hear talk about me and people telling my stepmom that I’d come around eventually and I was such a bratty teenager for not realizing what I have in her. It made me want to cause a scene but I didn’t want to make the bratty teenager comment valid.
But I was never going to ask my stepmom to adopt me. It would never be something I want. I don’t see her as my new/second/extra mom. Or my mom at all. I don’t love her. I’m not that close to her. She never even became my parent in my heart or head. The only reason I call her stepmom is respect and because I love my dad and he loves her and he wants us to be a family.
My dad and stepmom know how I feel. It was talked about 2:1 and in therapy. My stepsister’s different because she was so young and doesn’t remember her bio dad. But I knew my mom, had a relationship with her, I had her in my life until I was 9. And I said it before but nobody new will come in and take on the motherly role in my life.
I just know the adoption stuff isn’t over though. I know it’ll be talked about again today and I know everyone’s going to be watching me and willing me to ask her. I want no part of that so I’m considering faking sick so I can stay home. My dad will be upset because I figure he might see through me. But I don’t think anyone else will.
WIBTA if I do that?
